Here
are 3 of OUR top tips that you that will not
only help you love yourself more, but also so help prepare you to love and
receive love from a future mate.
Be Honest
If you can’t be honest with yourself, how can you be honest with others?
Honesty is important for any genuine relationship, especially the one we have
with ourselves. Sometimes, I think that we forget to separate the fantasy of
what we want from the reality of what we need. As a result, we find ourselves
lost, confused and sometimes desperate looking for a way out. This is the point
where people usually find themselves stuck because instead of focusing on the
root of the problem, they are focusing on the quick fix.
Pay attention to your actions and reactions. It easy for us to get distracted with responsibilities and find ourselves stuck on autopilot. A lot of times, I find that people get caught up taking on responsibilities and emotions that really serve them no purpose. It’s wasted energy.
We all have our good days and bad days and sometimes, insecurities can get the better of us. It would be unrealistic to say that you should never have a bad day ever. It just doesn’t work that way and anyone who says that they are 100% confident all the time has a good poker face.
When you do get into a relationship, you will be better equipped to love that person, flaws and all.
The
truth can be scary, but you have to take the good with the bad and own it. If
it’s a positive truth, then live by it. If it’s a negative truth, then you have
the option of either working towards changing it or working towards accepting
it.
This
honesty will bring you clarity within yourself and will also allow you to be
more honest and clear about what you need in a relationship.
Stop, Look and Listen!
Everything
you do should serve your purpose. If you find yourself in a place where you
feel like you are just going through the motions, take a time out to stop and
reevaluate things. No matter how big or small the task at hand or how major or
minor the info you are receiving, ask yourself: How will actions or reaction to this situation
serve purpose?
If it doesn’t serve a
positive purpose, don’t subscribe to it. Trust me, this will eliminate a lot of
the drama and unnecessary BS from your life and that new energy will attract
people who are on the same level. Nobody wants a high-maintenance partner.
Eliminate The Negative
Self-Talk
A
lot of confidence issues stem from comparisons we make between ourselves and
the lives of those we know. Those comparisons are reinforced with negative
self-talk and that talk is what tricks us into thinking that we are not good
enough.
When
you find yourself lost in a sea of negative self-talk, just replace it with
positive talk. Look at your accomplishments, big or small, and celebrate them.
If something is really bothering you, transform that bad juju into productive
energy and get to work on changing that situation.
#likeaboss
#likealesbutante
XOXO L & B
